How To Be Confident

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Author kathaofdisaster ( ago)
so we are all idiots :D i like that !

Author melv douc ( ago)
You're only what life allows you to be. You don't get to choose whether you're confident or reserved. You can fool yourself for a while but reality will always come back to hit you in the face.

Author Tan Onay ( ago)
I'm so glad I found this channel.

Author Camryn Prater ( ago)
i love how they used a cat as an example

Author Empatik ­ ( ago)
I love this channel! keep it up the good work :)

Author Jennifer Taylor ( ago)
This is what is so refreshing about most Seniors. They have given up being so one dimensional and egotistical. No wonder ageism exists as those elders might teach us to relax and realize life is very short. What a dangerous concept. Wisdom might just mean having a good time and not caring too much about what others think or waste their time focusing one.

Author Alicia Ingalls ( ago)
sometimes, when I'm trying something new, and I'm not sure about it, I stand in front of the mirror and insult myself with all the words and aspects I can think of. I do this, and when someone does insult me, it doesn't hurt, or surprise me, because I've heard it before, and I can joke about it.

Author Mert selvi ( ago)

Author Butterfly Snowy ( ago)
hahahahahahaha 😂😂😂😂😂 this is so me

Author Moraru Lucian ( ago)
Its no so healthy to lie to yourself everyone else its like you ; an idiot.
you will overestimate people and utilimately you will fail at everything..

Author Grace Webb ( ago)
This is fantastic!!! I love it. So absolutely true. 👌🏻👌🏻

Author Space Squid ( ago)
It's nice to know that I can stop looking for the point in my life where I'll stop messing up, doing embarrassing things and, generally being awkward. I used to frequently joke with my sister, asking if The Queen has actually farted in front of people, or ever peed herself as a three year old. I always look back at my younger self with disdain, grateful that I'm nowhere near THAT anymore- but I'll never be smarter, or kinder, I'll just have gone through more I guess. Just because I'm an eternal meathead doesn't mean I will never accomplish anything

Author Good-Stuff ( ago)
We're all fools!

Author shawarmageddonit ( ago)
The message in this video will only be fully valid once Hugh Hefner is no longer with us.

Author Roel Robles ( ago)
we are stupid.

Author Vault-Dweller Atheist ( ago)
i fucking hate myself.

Author Ronnie Roberts ( ago)
Who's been here since 100,000

Author Danny ( ago)
So I get told quite often that I am good looking by girls (and some guys as well) but I literally have 0 confidence at all and feel like anyone I speak to won't want to speak to me; what is going on and what should I do hahahaha

Author Jacqueline Nicoll ( ago)
I've subscribed 😁this was awesome :-)

Author Eduardo Barbosa ( ago)
That's comforting.

Author Father Louis Williams Suga Adams Junior the third ( ago)
I'm an idiot to think that everyone cares what I do 🌚

Author Josheel Patel ( ago)
i think that you should die

Author Isaac McCormick ( ago)
Thanks a lot,, Ima give it a shot

Author Valerie Buenafe ( ago)
Wow, I have never looked at self-confidence in that way.

Author YRN PrettyBoyNazi ( ago)
I used to be cocky then I got jumped by 5 black kids now I'm shy and low self esteem now I'm watching a video how to be confident 😒 I wish I still had the cocky 2012 version of me but now my 2017 version of me is so lame

Author simon rylance ( ago)
Your video just helped me I think

Author Yeah Way ( ago)
I think this is my favourite video from you guys

Author Severus Snape ( ago)
Isn't that kind of a fatalistic view that will eventually result in not caring enough to take care ? ...

Author Liz S ( ago)
i am a knitwit.

feels good.

Author Ms. ConFidentiality ( ago)
There is some logic in this video, but I don't entirely agree with it. I have my own ideas when it comes to confidence and you can find it in my channel. Plus just because we make mistakes does not make us dumb. It means were human. There is a differents.

Author TheZebra ( ago)
I just uploaded my first video, I'd anybody wants to listen to the turth, I recommend you watch it

Author olamide macjob ( ago)
You're a cretin!

Author M Adia ( ago)
Why can't they teach us these life skills in schools instead of the so called knowledge of the universe when we struggle to find ourselves?

Author Evan Edelman ( ago)
Thank you so much for this :)

Author digitalsoultech ( ago)
Haha. I love you school of life!

Author staywithme ( ago)
This one made me laugh a lot! Great video

Author mishal muneer ( ago)
OMG really addicted to this channel

Author shreeti badhani ( ago)

Author Šone Zver ( ago)
accept that you are an idiot. lol wow.

Author MultiSciGeek ( ago)
We should also realize other people are idiots and not make fun of them when they fail because it anyways happens to most of us.

Author Axton404 ( ago)
Basically, humans are stupid...

Author MysticalTechno ( ago)
Whenever I feel like an absolute idiot for something stupid I've said or done (and I feel like that pretty often), I watch this video and I feel better about myself :)

Author Toni MonoS ( ago)
telling myself how dumb i am is indeed part of my daily routine.

Author Michael Yhwh ( ago)

Author Peyton Dracco ( ago)
Superficially this seems like good philosophical advice, but it may also serve as direction to romanticise failure and to celebrate mediocrity. While too much attachment to anything is bad, ignoring the fundamental importance of constructs like dignity and the self-restrain they beget in us as social beings is dangerous. We can even get into how opposite to the understanding of what it takes to be successful in fields of high-performance this is. I may have more to say on this issue.

Author HeAteMyPencil ( ago)
The animation in this video straight-up blew me away. Great advice too.

Author Michael Jackson ( ago)
This video doesnt help me at all

Author Maria Obscure ( ago)
The warm way they speak to us, that's what touches our hearts.
Maybe our parents and teachers could do the same 😊

Author Indy D ( ago)
Oddly freeing message

Author adrian feyen ( ago)
That awkward moment you finally understand Radiohead's "Creep" :)

Author Bluelincolnpark ( ago)
Well fuck me. Where were you guys when I needed you in my struggles of relationships.

Author 7andala95 ( ago)
This channel is GOLD

Author Bystander232 ( ago)
I like the art design (? I mean the styles and how they're mixed together.) of this video. And the bunnies!

Author Hadja Mobile ( ago)
I have watched and read so much about confidence. I think this might have been the thing I needed to hear.

Author comment971 ( ago)
Calling yourself a muttonhead is all fair and good if it's in a loving "oh, silly me!" kind of way. Otherwise, it's self-depreciating and with have the exact opposite effect than bringing you confidence.

Author Michelle Li ( ago)
It's so weird how he is calling everyone imbeciles but his accent (aside from the message) makes it not offensive at all. Btw loved the animations and the great quality of the videos <3

Author BTS Fangirl 카디 Queen ( ago)
Remember! No matter what you do or say , you'll be judged either way! So just shine and be youself and let the haters hate as that will make you stronger, knowing they are intimidated by you will make you realise you are YOU- a beautiful person- and they look up to you so they judge so they can be on top again! Be you and you'll never fail!

Author nickmullo ( ago)
haha @ 2:25 - 2:35

Author Derpycat flicks ( ago)
"looking like a prick" *banana walks in* *slowly dies under bed*

Author Derpycat flicks ( ago)
I failed the first step... and hid under my bed. The underneath of beds are nice...

Author Kasbian Vaulks ( ago)
The "looking like prick" made me spit my tea.

Author Lily Annarosa ( ago)
"I am a brilliant nitwit."

Author Darth Vader ( ago)
Erasmus had the best face at the dinner table

Author TheMightyWhite ( ago)
2:22 - Brilliant.

Author David B. Salkeld ( ago)
I Iove this channeI because instead of bombarding you with the same useIess advice you have seen too many times before, it expIains to you, in a rather caIm and funny way, a new perspective of how you couId see things.

Author Laque Off Brains ( ago)
I presumed the painting was a comical representation of people acting out old dutch proverbs.
Like a duck holding a leek.

Author Great Job Ty! ( ago)
I have a self improvement page! COME CHECK IT OUT! Hope ya enjoy!!

Author Holly Firebolt ( ago)
I liked that a lot! Earlier today I was just thinking that when you acknowledge and accept your weaknesses you just gained a strength.

Author str8 shooter ( ago)
Horrible advice, Yeah go tell yourself every day that your a fuckup... great for your subconscious and your self worth.

Author Tuko Pomwene ( ago)
I find that the most interesting, coolest, down to earth, people I've ever met are usually people that are not afraid to show their flaws or embarrass themselves

Author Yanick Landry ( ago)
This is awesome and should be taught in schools.

Author Iheardloveisblind ( ago)
I wish it was as easy at that

Author Joseph Miungi ( ago)
Very importantly and it is educational thanks Gods blessings

Author Bharti Kumaria ( ago)
who is the guy who does the voice over??it's sooooooo soothing

Author Yovessel ( ago)
Great video! I needed to hear this

Author Niklas ( ago)
Started of my job interview with a "Good morning" today. It was 4 pm. I needed this.

Author Theblacksheep ( ago)
This might be one of my favorit videos of all time.

Author jboyler1 ( ago)
One or two more acts of folly shouldn't matter too much... But they do. This episode would be more helpful if it acknowledged that our errors can be ruinous, especially when the rest of the world demands perfection and punishes people for their errors.

Author Karan Malhotra ( ago)
It's almost like god vlogging for the betterment of human race! :) keep up the good work!

Author Frank Harr ( ago)
I'va actually been told that I'm delusionally arrogant.

Author Procrestinatorable ( ago)
this made me feel better about myself already, thanks so much!

Author The Lone Dreamer ( ago)
This really helped. Thank you so much.

Author carloscoronaa ( ago)
This video gave me so much anxiety

Author Johnny West ( ago)
Nah, de Botton, you're the only idiot.

Author jimi jack ( ago)
All the self help books out there suggest the opposite, which makes gaining confidence even more out of reach.

Author THOMAS ( ago)
So calling myself an idiot every day when I wake up will make me more confident.? 🤔

Author Abraham Kann ( ago)
Calamari said it best, it does feel like a hug. i needed that

Author Ash Cash ( ago)
Was wondering why I never got updates I was unsubscribed😡thanks YouTube

Author princess tolentino ( ago)
Great content, The School Of Life!! I'm so glad I found your channel.

Author Luke Brown ( ago)
i feel you get more confidence by telling yourself positive traits about yourself,not negative,just my opinion

Author FABRIZIO Amberti ( ago)
very nice ;)

Author Tafari Lanclos ( ago)
This video helps. It really does. Sometimes you just gotta hear someone else say it to make it seem so simple.

Author soltan alosmi ( ago)
That's it i know the answer is its ok to look like i fool but I didn't realize it, I always feel scared or afraid to go to strange office in some government building i want someone to tell specifically how and what and when to go there and ask beforehand, but now i will try it I'll go and do thing and ask we all stupid and we all look idiots no matter how good we hold ourself, some time we have the answer buy we need a little push

Author Kat Infectixn ( ago)

Author lol ( ago)
yeah guys, it's ok to be an idiot.

Author The Mario Fiend ( ago)
What of those of us who find parting with our dignity impossible? I swear, you never say anything of value in anything I've watched so far.

Author Stefan Nincetovic ( ago)

..and I am a fucking imbecile myself ^.^

Faults, mistakes, errors, and all other "wrong" actions are actually the perfect imperfections that make us human, and help us grow and prosper, every day, in every way, throughout whole life.

Every single one of us is a nitwit,
and every nitwit is special and amazing in his own way.

..what kind of a nitwit are you? 😃

Author Nousenesp ( ago)
I was an unconfident person and so shy, i was taking attention to other "cool" persons and all have their strange things and moments of ridiculous. It is in our hands to change that moments of shame in funny moments. Our attitude can change the way which others see us.

I know is difficult, but keep going and making things out of your confort zone where you can lose your "dignity"

Thanks to the video i will try to kiss a person when i feel that it could matters

Author Mahak Sharma ( ago)
Absolutely love your work :) It is such an amazing page. Keep up the Good work. Always looking forward to new videos from your page :)

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