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What Japanese People Think About Divorce



It’s terrible but true, a lot of marriages end up in divorce in reality.
Although it's getting increasing, we have less divorce compared to US. And an American woman asked me why it's less in Japan. Actually, I have no idea.
So, let's talk about that!

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Author Marc Johnson ( ago)
The Japanese always seem so uncomfortable with social issue conversations. I loved visiting there but it seems much like the U.K. Where people don't really say what they mean and all this suppressed frustration

Author CookerWins ( ago)
what's wrong with this Pikachu guy

Author Devon ( ago)
I mean, it happens. Of course it's not a good thing, but sometimes it's necessary. For instance, if a partner is abusive towards their significant other, that's inexcusable. They should seek to improve themselves and fix their relationship, otherwise they should just get a divorce. No one should have to suffer because their partner is a massive jerk on that level.

Author Maria Consuelo ( ago)
I married a man I loved but with the full awareness that it wouldn't be easy over time. Love must be supported by mutual respect and flexibility. This way, when a couple reaches old age, loving memories can replace romantic love and the thought that they built something lasting together becomes a reassuring feeling.

Author ParsimoniousTV ( ago)
I think divorce is depressing. Like imagining myself in that place I think that it would be VERY hard to live through. When you marry someone you never think that you'll have to go a day without them until death and then one day they just decide that they don't want to try anymore or that they don't care anymore or that they want someone else. That's your best friend. You grew up together, live together, had kids together and now they just say...never mind I don't want you anymore or you're not worth it anymore. I don't think I would ever be able to move past that if it happened to me.

Author FF2Guy ( ago)
Honestly, I think it completely depends on the situation.  For instance, in many places including America, people get married more or less on a whim and then don't put in any energy to compromise or maintain the relationship, which is just the wrong way to go about it.  On the other hand, some people are just not compatible, in which case it is just better to cut each other off entirely to save themselves from stress, or to protect their loved ones from any kind of emotional distress.  But I do agree with that one guy in the video that if I feel there is even just a possibility that I would divorce some person, I shouldn't plan to marry her.

Author ATHEPISTA CO ( ago)
if divorce with no child at all is fine. if divorce with got child is very hard because will have custody cases very difficult.

Author Anny l e ( ago)
personally for me married = love, respect, trust, support each other so if my husband cheating on me n do bad things to me I would do anything to save my marriage n improve my relationship with my husband but if still can't maybe divorce but it is the last option
(as a woman I don't like share my husband, his heart, mind, love n body is mine n just for me (I don't care if everyone call me selfish or whatever it is)k

Author terrann3545 ( ago)
One of the biggest reasons people get divorced is due to impulsivity and not knowing your boyfriend or girlfriend well enough and jumping into marriage because the sex is fantastic and you "get" each other, you need at least one year to truly know if they're psycho and or needy or more, which means they have nothing to bring to the table lol . Another is not accepting the views and traditions or what ever it may be of the one your dating, "my way or the highway" kinda person. My wife being Asian waited almost one year before being intimate with me because she wanted to get to know me, to know my character before wasting time on a relationship that would fail if we'd just jumped in, 24 years later I'm happy as the first day I met her. cheers.

Author Becca K ( ago)
I know more than a few people who have divorced and remarried 2, 3, 4 times. It always seems to be that person picking the same type of spouse with a problem, like abuse, drug addiction or serial cheating over and over

Author Jilly D ( ago)
my parents first got married because thet had me.my parents got along better after their divorce. they used to fight all the time. but after their divorce they became friends. They even went out with mutual friends together and stuff. they did wait till my brother and I were grown though.

Author HercULAS ( ago)
patience and tolerance is greater in Japanese communities compared to the UK/US. i would like to say it is a fact. it all comes down to life style and culture.

Author Down the Hatch and Itches to Scratch ( ago)
That the guy dressed as Pikachu and the stylishly dressed guy are in the same social circle is as big a cultural difference between Japan and the west as the topic of divorce is.

Author PaladinMJ ( ago)
strong negative image divorce.

Author zara kimi ( ago)
If u asking me..i dont believe about marriage and marriage life...😌😌

Author Jeff Hartman ( ago)
It's not divorce. multiple... what's disturbing is that someone repeatedly uses the romance and glamour of marriage over and over and didn't take it seriously

Author Grant Glaze ( ago)
I work with a man that has been divorced 3 times. He blames the ex's but I see that he does have a temper. I my self have been divorced once.The only negative side of divorce is the affect on the children.

Author GamerOfThe21Century ( ago)
Sadly in the United States relationships are treated like cars. After awhile people get bored of each other and want a new model/New Relationship and infidelity is becoming the social norm which is very sad.

Author Ibnul Arabi ( ago)
Agree with Yuta. That's why I avoid all Caucasian girls. In particular, Americans, British and Australians. Not to mention, especially Europeans.

Author Mikaila Owens ( ago)
Being a divorced person there are both positive and negatives about it. My personal experience is that we both tried to continue the relationship but it got to a point where it was just not possible to have a healthy relationship. So we decided to divorce. I never thought I would but ultimately it happened. But it's been several years now and I am much happier not being married and have made many progresses in my life that may not have been possible if I was still married. As long as you try your best before you divorce and not just give up right away, divorce is ok in my opinion.

Author Anthon Deutsch ( ago)
If you divorce many times the problem is the person

Author EskiltheWanderer ( ago)
で、離婚のことどう思うの話なら、俺の二人のお爺さんが何回も離婚したことはある。離婚したお爺さんはアメリカ人ので、あと第三のお爺さん(いるわけはあるぞ!)はスローバキア人ので離婚しなっかったけど元の家族から逃げて生活つづいた。どちでもちょっと嫌な感じですね。アメリカ人のお爺さん達は結婚しないほうがいいやつらしいですから、離婚したのはびっくりではないがまた結婚したことは悪いことかな。だが最初に自分幸せができたら問題ない。逃げたお爺さんって別な話けどさ。離婚とことはいいことなんてないけど正直だって、逃げるのはけっこ許さないと思う。だから、ゆうたさんと一緒しょうはないことだと思います。

It's interesting how different cultures handle divorce differently. My American grandfathers (I have two... one is my mother's stepfather, because her mother divorced the first! LOL) have both divorced and married about three to five times, and it's rather shameful of them; now, even they have a sort of sad, negative image of themselves, like they're hopeless to keep a marriage forever but lucky that they have what they have now. There's a sort of honesty to that. It admits that we are not perfect as human beings. This attitude is in contrast with my Slovak grandfather, who ran off on my dad's mother when they were young, and started a new family elsewhere. Unlike a divorce, which can be messy and life-destroying at worst and cordial at best, leaving a marriage the way my European grandfather did is a dishonest kind of abandonment.

All in all, I'm glad we have the option to get a divorce, even if others might look upon it shamefully.
ほかの人は恥ずかしい目で見られても離婚できる選びはあると自由わいいね。

I would love to get a response from Nobita to this comment in some way by the way!
ところで、何とかのびたさんから返事受け取ったら嬉しいけどね!

Author EskiltheWanderer ( ago)
アメリカ人の傍にほかの女もいたらそのほうが女の一人ぼっちよりいいと思うわね。

Author julie ( ago)
My dad cheated on my mum when I was about 7 yrs old (I don't really remember but I was in primary school). Once your partner cheats on you, your trust is almost completely broken. My ex bf went out with my friend and although he felt guilty and confessed, our relationship just wasn't the same from then on. In my parents case, they almost went through a divorce. Of course back then I was young I didn't want my parents to divorce but as I got older, I sometimes wonder if things would've been better if they actually did divorce. Mostly because my parents are like polar opposites and they quarrel a lot. A LOT. It affects the kids y'know. However, realistically speaking with the separation, my family wouldn't be living as comfortably as we are now so I'm thankful for that.

Author Ben Franklin99 ( ago)
Divorce is very healthy if you are married to a bad spouse - one who drinks, drugs, is abusive, who doesn't care about you, won't work, is a bad parent, has a personality disorder (technical term,) etc.

Author 乡下人 ( ago)
Hi Nobita San, did you read the novel 失樂園 by 邊度淳一. The story in that novel seems very much related to this topic. So I would like ask: is that situation pretty typical in Japan nowadays?

Author Justin G ( ago)
You have to realize that divorce was not allowed in Catholic religion (which Japan has a long history with). It was only until Martin Luther started speaking that the idea was debated. I guess in Europe and America, the idea was more accepting. Not really sure but great video non the less. Keep up the good work.

Author Business Logistics ( ago)
In USA divorce has become part of their culture just like homosexuality. In Africa we dont think of divorce. it happens but we dont take it as normal. We dont like here. Homesexuality in Africa is like a no no no...

Author LogosTheos ( ago)
That's why I don't mess with Western women

Author Benji Zax and the Alien Prince ( ago)
actually divorced in america is a business!! it actually benefits the feminist bitches!!

Author FiferJanis ( ago)
Obviously it's not ideal, but sometimes life is too short to be stuck in a bad relationship, or one that doesn't work out. I was divorced by age 27 after 4 years... but for the past 15 years I've been in a steady relationship, but marriage hasn't come up. We don't have kids and won't, so never saw having a binding contract as needed. We own a house together and have 2 dogs - probably more of a committment!

My former husband and I were no more than friends who were roommates pushed together by parents and friends trying to "define" us when there really wasn't anything there beyond friendship. I wanted someone who was an equal partner whom I felt some sexual tension for; not be a mother to a guy 12 years older than me whose parents were trying to get him to leave the nest.

I also feel like one of the biggest issues I have with marriage is as soon as I was married, I ceased to be a person. I was the lesser part of a "thing". As if being a woman isn't hard enough without being reduced in social status to someone else's wife/property in this day and age... NO THANKS! I am my own person with my own career and own interests, not someone else's XYZ.

Author LeftRightExtremist ( ago)
Great video, once again. Thank you.

Author Tero Väänänen ( ago)
What's the point of having a negative image of divorce? It is not like it is a fun thing for anyone, and something anyone wants to do.

People just need to get the high image of marriage out of their heads. The morality, and ideals that are tied to it are misplaced. You stay because you want to, and not because there is some invisible moral prison holding you in. Marriage does not make things better, nor is it any guarantee for happiness. In fact, it can make things worse when the couple should have said sayonara a long time ago for everyone's sake. People live in fear of themselves and other people's judgement, even when they are all wrong.

Why is there a such a thing as marriage? Security and money, status, family pride and all of the above, plus government got your tax balls. And religion; oh man, no better way to corral the sheep (and collect the money - they got that down a long time ago). Children are there for succession of family status, money, and pride. Have that kid out of marriage, and suddenly that kid is looked at side ways, having less value, and the woman is cheap. Why is that? Because family status, money, and pride. Don't have those, well that sucks. It is a whole lot of garbage.

And look, marriage is strong when women have a weak position in society. It even used to be the only way women could have possessions and income. Marriage WAS their income. And yes, it still IS their income even in western countries in many cases. Why does the Japanese wife control the money in the family? There you have it. It is not a position of strength, but proof of the weakness. Men can have side women because they can!

If you can avoid it, do not have a marriage where there is an imbalance of incomes because it can be a source of big problems. It is good to have a woman who has the same power you have; not only can you cover each other's asses, but you can separate in peace. Take off the pressure of being the only idiot with money, and then feeling guilty if you have to walk away. Have kids, then even better, they will be covered.

Now, give women power, and independence, and divorces start. In my home country over 70% of divorces are initiated by women, because their position is better, and often stronger than men after divorces because they have their own incomes, have better social and support networks, and wide government support. No reason to stay, and bing, bang, boom. Divorce rates are not low because it is morally bad, but because people can not divorce! As soon as you reasonably have that option, 50% divorce rate, and 60-70% divorce rate in some European countries. People don't even bother getting married for the ridiculous hassle that it has become (and the obvious illusions).

So, if a couple divorces for the right reason, I don't give a damn. Good for them, and good luck.

Author Yana Sarkar ( ago)
Daichi has the best opinion.. i think that way too... If you marry someone you have to stay together forever... if not then don't pick them!

Author Latonya Johnson ( ago)
Divorce is very common in America where I live when I was growing up half of my childhood friends had parents that were divorced

Author xYuushax ( ago)
Who cares about feelings of each other, when raising kids is more important than your own feelings towards each other? And what? You want your kid/s to suffer? If you care too much about your feelings, do not get children, do not get marriage or any relationship at all. This maybe the reason why most western families are broken families.

Author xYuushax ( ago)
People who can't commit to each other shouldn't or should never be in a marriage. Or be in a relationship at all.

Author LemonadeDan ( ago)
First time I get to see Yuta's home from the video call 😂

Author Dajon Yo ( ago)
How do Japanese woman view pervs/ sexual men?

Author camille caumont ( ago)
if you value feelings over stability and raising kids....you'll probably get divorced

Author Soul Recycler ( ago)
I believe divorce is going to be vastly different thing towards a couples situation. My personal experience, both my parents had a divorce when I was 8. They just didn't love each other as much, no fighting no cheating. They were just unhappy with the relationship.

I mainly followed my mom, but hollidays and weekends would be spent with my dad. Both my parents got remarried, my dad and step mother had a baby together, and mu step dad had his son from his first divorce. So essentially I have 4 parents, 2 step siblings, 6 grandparents (some of them passed away).

Honestly, it ain't that bad, I truly believe everyone is genuinly happy in this situation. I simply can't imagine how life would be if my parents never dovorced.

Author Fantapants ( ago)
Just don't get married it's a bad contract for a man,you're signing your rights away... especially in the west.

Author Cristina Príncipe ( ago)
Divorce wouldn't exist if people didn't come up with the "great" idea of getting married. Marriage is an oppressive patriarchal institution that should be abolished some day. So if divorce help people break free from that oppressive institution, then it's OK for me 😊

Author Vy The Fujoshi ( ago)
I have divorced parents and I have been living with my mom since I was 9. What people don't understand is that staying with a partner for the rest of their life isn't something as easy as just getting married. Getting married is the first step out of 1 million. For a couple to grow to support each other and become part of each other's lives requires them to evolve individually and evolve together also. People change all the time and some couples aren't able to keep up with each other's changes and that is when it starts falling apart. To be a long-lasting couple is to be able to fall in love with them every day as they change every day also. That isn't something that can be easy as some people are afraid of change and just want to stay at a stagnant stage, but that isn't possible. That is why sometimes, divorce is the only choice you have left when both partners are drifting apart. I wouldn't say divorce is something positive, but I would try my best to avoid it obviously. If it ever comes down to that, I won't like not consider it as it can actually make my partner's life and mine better. To be honest, my parents getting divorced was the best thing between them staying together and just fight every day or not talk to each other at all, and them splitting up and finally being at peace with each other and themselves. So yeah, this is my opinion.

Author LordAuraa ( ago)
First of all, Ross is a fictional character. Second, he was an idiot.

Author John Yeo Suryawan ( ago)
I think divorce is good for both partners even if only one partner feels wrong about the marriage. A marriage should be based on a strong foundation and not romantiscm. Marriage means the couple are committed to each other forever and they truly love and like all or most of each other. Divorce is the right thing to do if u just thought deep enough and realized that u chose the wrong partner. Otherwise u would hv to feel wrong abt ur relationship for the rest of ur life, which will slowly eat u.

Author adam mohamad ( ago)
I am not sure whether to take the pikachu guy seriously or not

Author Walter ( ago)
Fun fact!
Did you know that the number one reason of divorce is marriage?

huehuehuehue :)

Author Claudia Blaj ( ago)
Marriage is old-fashioned XD. There is no need to marry so divorce is not really a topic. I don't know in the USA and Japan but in France half of all the couples are not married even if they have children.

I honestly don't understand why people get married nowadays. Financial reasons, love ?

Author Terry Sukairain ( ago)
I think the high rate of divorce can be linked to media glorifying relationships that you need to be in one in order to feel complete, leading to alot unresolved issues or experiences the person hasn't been able to fullfil. it's always a terrible thing to rush into a relationship without first coming to terms with who you are as a person, and not fleshing out what you look for in a partner. I see it alot with my friends they rush to get married, and have kids. not necessarily in that order. 99% of the time they consider divorce or even cheating.

Author Kirito Nightfire ( ago)
Well I personally think divorce is a bad thing. Here in America its so popular because after many years of marriage you start to lose interested in each other so you get a divorce so you can start fresh; then instead of trying to work it out or talk about it, so I can divorce the "easy way out" because your not willing to put the effort in. Most divorce in America are rarely beneficial to the family/children its more of a selfish act that supposedly makes you feel empowered. That's why I kinda actually like Japan's view on marriage, its so traditional and in way religious. Also divorce in America is economically beneficial due to court case if your trying to take from the other, and also you can end up with bad step-family. There is also the emotional and mental problems for kids with divorced parents. Its always the kids who suffer the most due to the fault of their parents/adults. But divorce has more negatives then benefits. Well that's my opinion anyway.

Author Kahrese Stathum ( ago)
*when she busts out the japanese faster than i could bust the nut*

Author Mr Boardplayer ( ago)
Is no one going to comment on the Pikachu randomnly sitting there? lol

Author Nihon - Daisuki ( ago)
I subbed this video for you Nobita. And man is it hard work and time! Enjoy!

Author Bloke Masterson ( ago)
Seems like a divorce in Japan is a scarlet letter for life.

Author Sigurd Kristvik ( ago)
hmm... I know quite a few that have experienced a divorce, either to themselves or their parents.
It's can be very bad for the children, but some adapt to it after a while.
I understand it's importance... it's a way to leave unhealthy relationships for women and men... but it's still not some thing people plan to do or look forward to do.

Author Aurelija Jeleniauskaitė ( ago)
Very good topic, Nobita-san and thank you for releasing discussion video about this.
In general, divorce is much more common in Western countries. I would like to share an example from my side.
Coming from Europe, a small country called Lithuania, it is easy to notice high divorce rate here. However, my parents are still married (for almost 32 years). Saw them having a hard time, angry on each other... But also being very happy. They greet each other in the morning and say "Good night" with love, every single day (which is true admiration!). They also give each other a date on marriage day every year (same for day, when they met each other for the first time) and renewed vows after 25 years old marriage.
What I meant by sharing this - romance and intimacy part is important to keep marriage strong. Same as speaking with each other. Actually, Lithuania and Japan have a lot in common (we are also quite conservative in a sense), despite a complete difference in a divorce situation. So, even in conservative culture, love fire can still be incredible. In the end, everything is the hearts of both sides.
It could sound easy to say - "oh, you are so lucky to have parents married for so long". Maybe, in some way I am, but guys - marriage is an art, which you learn through experience, through pain and tears, as well as joy and wonderful moments. And, if you manage to stay together until death,, this is ultimate, eternal. Nothing more beautiful, what could be imagined.
In my case, there is another side. At age of 25, have not been in a relationship not even once. Loved twice and both times took action myself to approach guys. As a result, I was heart-broken both times. Guess what - I still believe in true love. In one marriage for a lifetime, which still (of course!) hope to find. And one of those guys is still my friend until today!
(Nobita-san, thank you for video, where you encouraged women to approach guys - it is not a joke - there are a lot of men, who are same scared to speak with women, even in Western countries!).
As the final note - divorce could seem as the easiest way out. However, there are always several ways and it does not have necessarily to be the easiest one.

P.S. I imagine you probably hear it a lot, but I love both yours, Nobita-san, and Daichi-san channels. You are doing a tremendous job and I am saying this from the bottom of the heart.

For Daichi-san - after seeing your "Free Hugs" campaign, I am going to do 3 events like that for special cultural work. Actually, your videos were the ones, who truly inspired me, so thank you so much for that! :)
I hope you will keep doing wonderful job guys, you both are amazing! :)

With warmest wishes,
Aurelija from Lithuania (now living in Armenia)

Author Andrea David Farnocchia ( ago)
Life is one. People should look at their business. If something doesn't work why should I be unhappy forever to please the expectations of the mass?

Author Adrienn Rigó ( ago)
Personally, I think if a marriage does not work for a couple anymore, there is no point to maintain it. The parties are just going to annoy each other, feeling like they are drowning and finally try to hurt and "kill" each other to survive. Of course, there are exceptions when, for example the couple has kids, so they try to keep it together for the kids' sake. Sometime, it works. But many times children suffer the consequences of a bad, superficial marriage.
From where I come from people usually get married (mostly after living together for a few years, or even more) because they love each other (even after spending a lot of time together), and experienced they are a good team.
Of course, it is hard to resist our family's and society's expectations for people to get married above a certain age, and their negative image of divorce. However, we are living in a world where we can follow our heart and decide for ourselves what works for us. So why not do it? We are responsible grown ups, or something like that. XP ....or at least trying.:D

Author mustafa bashar ( ago)
when it comes to divorce because of cheating on me in my case I would have left my wife forever and never look for her again and last but not least I would throw away the ring or sell it.

Author Kendraah ( ago)
I had to comment on this video, I am a twice divorce single mother. My First marriage my ex was abusive and almost killed me and I got out. My second marriage my ex ran away with another woman and divorced me leaving me with our daughter.

I dated a Japanese man and it was a huge issue for him and his family that I was divorced with a child. I think it is kind of unfair to judge someone for something they had no control over. The woman always gets judged the harshest when she is divorced. I would love to have a complete family for my daughter but am judged too much based on the fact I have a child. I am in college full time for nuclear medicine, I work full time and have my own place and car. I do pretty well for myself. But because I am a divorced single mother I am looked down upon as dating and marriage material.

Author Mizuyah ( ago)
Interesting topic. I feel like Japanese people are about how they come across to other people and so will stay in a sham marriage in order to keep up appearances as oppose to think of themselves and they're own mental wellbeing. In the west, we are selfish. We put the individual first and if the individual is not happy, then said person will opt for divorce if it suits their wellbeing. I don't really have a bad image of divorce. But I did watch my grandparents who are still married by the way, gradually drift a part. There is no love in that marriage and it's kinda sad.

Author teamvjmck blah ( ago)
The White women in the video I feel sorry for the sucker that marries her. She is way to relaxed about divorce and sure to have a few in her future.

Author teamvjmck blah ( ago)
The last thing you want is a high divorce rate like the US. People often ask, "What is wrong with the kids today" well single parent homes is a large part to do with it.

Author Albert Dennis ( ago)
it hard on kids if there are any. I could sometimes be deviation.

Author Angela Jiang ( ago)
when I was in Japan last year I saw the guy in the pikachu jumpsuit in shibuya.

Author Duda B. ( ago)
i'm not sure about divorce in US, but i can tell you how it is in Brazil. Both my parents are divorced twice, and actually, i only had two friends that still has their parents together. Here divorce is very commom, once i said to my grandmother that i was thinking about getting married, but i was afrait that i might be happier with someone else, and than, she said : hunny, better alone than with a bad husband. People here don't have afraid to show their unlucky relationship to d others, they have afraid of living unhappy for the rest of their lives. it's something about -" mutual respect, and let you partner go search his own hapiness, such as you."

Author Electronic Dream ( ago)
Divorce is a tricky subject. Some people think its justified, in cases like where the guy is abusing the woman and the woman feels that she must get out of the marriage, for the safety of the kids and herself. That, I can agree with.
But then there are people who divorce, when the relationship can be sorted out through therapy etc, or when people just fall out of love with that person, even after having been married for many years.
As what Yuta said, marriage is different from culture to culture (I believe he said something along those lines. Correct me if I'm wrong).
As for my view, I think divorce should not happen, unless extreme circumstances means that there is no choice but to divorce.

Author J C ( ago)
As someone ho grew up in a conservative/religious household (not ULTRA by any means) marriage is (supposed to be) a special thing. People getting married way too quickly will usually, but not always, lead to a faster divorce.

See most modern Hollywood marriages for examples.

Author Cory Sandlin ( ago)
僕の両親はりこんします。しかし、僕はネガイメージを思っていませんけど、たといらんようあって大丈夫って思います。

Please feel free to correct my grammar :).

Author RudeAlert ( ago)
This was a very fun format, I'd like to see more of these groups discussions in the future.

Author Hannah Stahl ( ago)
Divorce... if it helps your wellbeing then do it. Both of my parents had divorced cheating, abusive people from their first marriage and ended up marrying each other and were very happy up until my mother passed away. Everyone deserves to find their true happiness.

Author I Want to Believe ( ago)
do a "what do japanese women think about hispanics" topic

Author BlackAuras ( ago)
Yuta looks incredibly handsome here.

Author Andrea Leoni ( ago)
In Japan, if the man divoRces, it must be her fault, but if the woman divoRces, she has no right to....oh well

Author KiK99999 ( ago)
I think nobody likes the idea of divorce, but I think it can happen to anyone.

Just like breakups can happen to the most seemingly perfect couple.
And friendships that one has had for decades that seem so strong can also disintegrate into nothing.
And even family-the people you grew up with- can be backstabbing.
People you known for your whole life can change their attitudes overnight.
Sometimes I think human relationships are just so unpredictably fragile, and we never know what could happen to lead up to that final break. Nobody can foresee it-but sometimes life throws a curveball and then people don't know how to handle it-and it can lead to damage that can't be repaired. It probably wasn't an easy decision for any of those people.

Author smileandlaughs ( ago)
why is there a pikachu in the discussion? and who did it married to?

Author CorrvptSave ( ago)
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Author Dan The Man ( ago)
Would love to hear more about the law aspect of marriage. What ideas they'd love to see implemented or discussed in terms of marital laws. The relationship aspect is old.

edit: Is old and not limited to Japan.

Author ogorhan ( ago)
Well divorce is never a good thing, it means something went wrong and it couldnt be fixed by talking and such. But sometimes its also the right choice. When talking bout cheating in Japan, I do feel its kinda overlooked, ignored perhaps by both sides. I cant really explain well. If your partner cheats on you, its never alright to pretend nothing happened or even cheat yourself. Another thing is the so called shame or bad rumors that someone who has divorces goes through. Its bit unfair for them just because their marriage didnt go well and they didnt just suck it up.

Author NITESHADOWshouske ( ago)
Here's my take on it. If you can't talk it out with your partner and to lazy to compromise then don't fucking get married! It's bad for the kids. Both of my parents are divorced.

Author Rachel K ( ago)
in America my generation saw a lot of divorce so a little over 50% of couples in my generation 30s and 20s choose not to get legally married but just live with their partner in what is called domestic partnership. my close friend from college didn't marry until living with her serious boyfriend for 8 years. some people live with their serious partner for over 20 years and never get legally married and sometimes their relationships are even happier than those that get legally married. I think that is why even legal marriage is unpopular in western countries. ie Europe and the Americas.

Author Jessica Marie ( ago)
Nobita, what do Japanese women think about their boyfriends/husbands watching pornography? To be honest, I hate it. I hate it because it nearly destroyed my marriage and the intimacy with my husband. I've seen men get fired because of their addiction escalating so high, they would skip work. This happened in my own marriage. What is your opinion?

Author Rachel K ( ago)
my japanese close friend his parents are still together but they sleep in different rooms. he told me this is called domestic divorce where the married couple in Japan stay together and don't get a divorce because of japanese social pressure. However in both their minds of the husband and the wife, they no longer love each other that way. My American parents are the same but it is not social pressure but for financial reasons.

Author Kurenai Yuuhi ( ago)
My country has the same mindset as japan in divorse. I personally don't necessarily think it's negative but, I also don't consider it a positive thing. I guess it depends on people themselves and what they want to do with their lives

Author Tialisa Chapman ( ago)
i am really liking these discussion videos! as for my thoughts on divorce if there are reasons to get it ,than it should happen without shame, but hopefully both (if there are children) can co parent with out using the kids against each other, i have seen both types happen in my family,and it is so much better when the parents work together. i don't see it as a negative in itself, but i also know that i believe a marriage should be forever,as well as it needs to take place between two people who know each other very well,and of course love & respect each other

Author IDKaN ( ago)
can i ask why that guy was wearing that pickachu-suit :)

Author Viktoria Duer ( ago)
pikachu rocks !

Author Anastasia Saenz ( ago)
If I may, I'd like to give my personal experience of divorce from a point of view:
It's bad. If there's typical arguing going on in the house(about bills, house payments, child-rearing, each other's particular relative - one of the husband's sister or one of the wife's sister), it's a weak move. Not to mention, if there's children involved and they don't know what's going on, or they don't catch on if they see anything going on, it's going to hit them the hardest and they're going to grow up, some way or another, affected by their parents' divorce...
I personally think some - if not most - people think that divorce is just a joke. A light-hearted course of life to take, without thinking of the consequences of their actions, and if they have children, they expect their children to just 'get over it' as if their separated parent is a dead-beat or just a bad person.

Author V. Anikin ( ago)
you are amazing XD

Author chibisamalove2 ( ago)
As someone who's actually divorced, I have experience with the matter. I didn't go into my marriage thinking it would fail, and I still don't see it as a failure in that I have my son because of it. My ex and I simply weren't compatible with one another, though that doesn't mean there weren't feelings for one another in the beginning. I do believe staying together just for the sake of image isn't good, though. If you're better apart than you are together, there's nothing wrong with that.

That said, I know I have a strong aversion now to getting married again. If I met someone who was able to show me it's okay to take the step again, I might feel differently. As of right now, that hasn't happened.

Author chri2453 ( ago)
Which woman with a clear sense would marry a guy dressed up as a banana?

Author Deborah M. ( ago)
I agree with the guy using black shirt. The idea of divorce should not be an option when it comes to Marriage. As if in divorce happen, there's always will be a gate to get out from the relationship and that is not okay. Where there's a quotes from where I come, it says "You might be Divorce on Paper, but You are Still Husband and Wife in the eye of God". And when you died, you will need to answer God for your responsibilities towards your husband and wife.

Author Deborah M. ( ago)
Some divorce will give really bad impact to couples life if they have kids and their kids are young. From what I SAW, the kids lose track in life, and blame themselves for their parents divorcee. It makes them very low self esteem and not feeling love and never want to approach the idea of love in other words, they afraid to fall in love. This worse the condition when some of the children fall into depression and do behave recklessly in life. I also saw that when the Divorce couple husband and wife are moving on to have their own family after divorce, this situation creates a very big hole where the kids that are caught in previous marriage feels like they are not belong to someone and was discriminated by both families from both of their NEW Family members. Lost of history on family tree will also effect their background one day. its not that im skeptical about this idea, its just that the idea of divorce will impact the other or both and its just sad to watch that. A new Life Idea after Divorce Maybe Works for Someone But It Might Not Works for All Peoples. Sometimes it is better to fixed the relationship and although it takes hardwork, perseverance and patience, forgiveness, one day the Love will exist again and when they found that in their heart, they will know In the END OF THE DAY, IT IS ALL WORTH IT. LOVE YOUR Partners again. Well, Keep the promise of you Vow.

Author Юля Чекан ( ago)
In my opinion, real romantic feelings are important between people. And if there is no love between the spouses, then this is no longer a family, it's just a life with an unloved person. So divorce is a trifle, bad is the lack of love between spouses.

Author Helena Turkulainen ( ago)
In the western world, marriage is a bit of a status symbol. The focus on materialism lessen the importance of relationships and connections to other people, and marriage as a thing is kind of bundled up with materialism. It's a property you poses that make you something more than what you are otherwise, like a title. I think that the view on marriage is the reason why divorce is high, not because the view on divorce in itself.

I got married last year. For western culture I got married early, at 24 years of age. Both mine and my husbands parents are still married, so in our culture we have a slightly different view on marriage. We chose to be together because we want to take on the challenges of life together. I'm not going to say that "We'll never divorce because we'll always be deeply in love!", that's a horribly naive thing to think. But I hope we continute to nurture the relationship and teamwork we have successfully championed so far, to prevent divorce from happening.

As for my attitude against people who are divorced, I don't mix particularly well with people who are bad with their people skills. They just don't interest me as people. Someone who is divorced multiple times is more likely to be bad at that, so by extension I'd be less likely to befriend people who have gone through multiple divorces because of what personalloty they are likely to have. If they are well adjusted and kind people though I wouldn't care.

Author Alfred van Zant ( ago)
I think divorce is good and important, as an option for people in a bad situation. My mom divorced my dad when I was a kid. It was hard but she did the right thing for herself and for her child. Maybe she should've known better than to marry my dad, but there was no point paying for that mistake any longer than she did.

Here in the Netherlands it's actually quite acceptable to live together and have kids without getting married. A bunch of my aunts and uncles have been with their partners for like twenty, thirty years. I don't think they're really missing anything by not being officially married.

Author salim5321 ( ago)
unfortunately.... divorce is a common thing in my country . I wish I could find my love there at Japan . but I'm too insecure to go there . I don't know why I think people treat us different there . I just want to know.. are Arabs are welcomed in Japan? I wish I get a response from you or a video. it would be much appreciated . I'm working on learning Japanese so far.

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